I was most struck by the girlfriend confirming her strong bond to her church family but feeling that they have not walked in her shoes and may not be able to provide the support needed to help her make this difficult decision.
I agree with ckarlson. Having been raised in a staunch, fundamentalist denomination (no longer active in that lifestyle), I remember how isolated I felt whenever I deviated from “the norm”. Even asking the questions was essentially forbidden; I can only imagine how potentially alone the girlfriend feels in spite of being surrounded by “church family”. How difficult to face such complex topics without those closest to her.